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Alcohol & Drugs
As a Coach over the past 30 years, I have worked with thousands of clients who were struggling with drug and alcohol problems. Many were in the early stages of the disease; some were in the advanced stages. What they all had in common was that they had tried many things to control their alcohol and drug use, failing over and over.
I have spent most of my time working with people on an outpatient basis, using Coaching to support their sobriety. Where are you currently in your struggle with alcohol and drug abuse? What have you tried up to this point? Is there someone in your life who is struggling, and you want to know what you can do to help? The material on this site will help you to approach sobriety differently, either for yourself or others. Coaching also helps you gain all that you can from free resources such as A.A., N.A. and Alanon Twelve-Step Programs, Celebrate Recovery, CAIR Self-Help and CAIRing Grace Groups.
Learning the nature of Alcoholism & Drug Addiction – The cultural context of addiction, character changes caused by addiction. It is important to understand what you are dealing with as you begin the change process.
Learning the internal patterns within yourself that feed into and fuel the addictive process. We all have Perceptual Filters that affect what we experience and how we experience it. Several powerful examples of Perceptual Filters that impact alcoholism and drug addiction are: “Demanding Comfort”, “The Time Machine”, “Assuming Feelings Are Fact”, “Powerful Words”.
It is also important to realize we have feelings about our feelings – “Second-Order Feelings” – that fan the flames of emotional labiality in chemical dependency. The belief: “That’s Just The Way I Am” adds a powerless, hopeless dimension. Jerry is an example of applying Coaching treating alcoholism and drug addiction.
Learning about the Adult Child Character. In all my years of coaching people struggling with alcoholism and drug addiction, I have never found one that didn’t suffer from wounded parts of self that had been rejected and disowned. These wounded parts play an active role in addiction. Understanding Self-Esteem is a key to unlocking the mystery of identity. The environment we grow up in has a powerful impact on our sense of identity – Developing Self-Esteem.
Learning to develop your own “Inner Coach” to approach the healing process. There is a healthy New Program approach to your sobriety. In my experience, how you approach the process of change is the key to successfully making the healthy changes in your life today. Change is possible in the present! It is a lifetime adventure of becoming, living consciously in the present, looking for "Nuggets of wisdom" about healthy change. Give yourself the tools needed for making healthy growth in your life today. The Action Plan shares some of the resources that can help you make your desired changes the path of least resistance.
Realizing that this material is deep wisdom about the process of change, find someone to discuss and share your reactions with as you go through the material. This is a very important step in the healing of your addictions. Select someone you can feel safe being open with in the sharing process, or look into a free support group like CAIR Self-Help Groups, or CAIRing Grace Groups. It is very important to attend A.A. and N.A. meetings regularly, and find a sponsor to help support your recovery.
Coaching
Are you dealing with areas of your life you have tried to change – and somehow it hasn’t worked? Are there people in your life struggling with such problems. These problem areas may be causing you considerable pain. The harder you have tried to make healthy changes in these areas, the more hopeless and trapped you may have felt. I call that NORMAL! How you approach change makes all the difference. Coaching shows you a different way to approach problems that makes healthy change the path of least resistance – both for yourself and others.
Therapeutic Coaching approaches change at the level of perception. We explore deeply the underlying assumptions and beliefs that support the toxic patterns that bring client’s into coaching. Coaching shows you “How To Build Your Own Inner Coach”. Examples of core perceptions explored in Coaching include:
“Freedom Is Accepting Our Consequences”,
“I Am Not My Story And It Affects Where I’m Starting Today”,
“Change Is A Participation Process”,
“The Power Of Choosing”,
Applying Coaching to the “Teatment of Addiction To Pornography”.
You may be drowning in some addictive patterns, dying in a toxic marriage or work situation, or fighting off the “nothingness” of depression. Each new day may loom for you as a minefield to travel through, anxiety and self-doubt beating you down each step of the way. You want to go north but a part of you grabs the steering wheel of your life’s bus and you head south, hating yourself the entire time.
Are you doing what you don’t want to do and not doing the things you really want to do? Do you find yourself surviving from day to day? Is your life feeling out of control? Do you need/want a coach to help you learn to drive differently, so you can enjoy your life? Would you like to gain skills and tools to handle difficult stretches of road differently? Would you like to have life become an adventure, a journey into health rather than an ordeal to survive? Coaching helps you change the process from an ordeal to an adventure.
How would you like to find out who has REALLY been driving your emotional bus on these treacherous roads? Coaching will show you how to recognize who is really driving and how to become a healthy driver today. Perception is the key to healthy driving. Recognizing filters that distort your perceptions and replacing them with more accurate filters, makes healthy driving much easier.
Imagine driving into the sun in the late afternoon, your windshield streaked and dirty. The sun’s light reflects off the grime and makes it almost impossible for you to see what is ahead of you. You can continue driving; feeling anxious about the poor visibility or you can pull over, clean the windshield and continue driving, able to see much more clearly and accurately.
Most of the distortions seen through the windshield of your perceptual bus come from learning to survive the pains of life up until now. I will show you how to shift from surviving to living, and help you understand the differences between these two perspectives.
Depression
As a Coach over the past 30 years, I have helped many people learn to approach their depression differently. Over 32 million people will suffer from depression sometime in their life (you are not alone). Whether you are suffering with these problems yourself or someone you care about is suffering with depression, the first step is to realize that there is help! I will take you through a series of steps that can help you develop a healthy approach to this problem.
Learning the internal patterns within yourself that feed into and fuel your depressive reactions. We all have Perceptual Filters that affect what we experience and how we experience it. Powerful examples of Perceptual Filters that feed and maintain depression are: “The Time Machine”, “If Only…”, “Seeing Half Empty”, and “Shame vs. Regret”. Beginning to clean these filters has a profound impact on your depression. It is also important to realize we have feelings about our feelings – “Second-Order Feelings” – that fan the flames of anxiety/panic. The belief: “That’s Just The Way I Am” adds a powerless, hopeless dimension.
Learning about the Adult Child Character. Understanding Self-Esteem is a key to unlocking the mystery of identity. The environment we grow up in has a powerful impact on how we learn our perception of self – Developing Self-Esteem. In all my years of coaching people struggling with depression, I have never found one that didn’t suffer from wounded parts of self that had been rejected and disowned. These wounded parts play an active role in depression.
Learning to develop your own “Inner Coach” to approach the healing process. There is a healthy New Program approach to your depression. In my experience, how you approach the process of change is the key to successfully making the healthy changes in your life today. Change is possible in the present! It is a lifetime adventure of becoming, living consciously in the present, looking for Nuggets of wisdom about healthy change. Give yourself the tools needed for making healthy growth in your life today. The Action Plan shares some of the resources that can help you make your desired changes the path of least resistance.
Realizing that this material is deep wisdom about the process of change, find someone to discuss and share your reactions with as you go through the material. This is a very important step in the healing of your depression. Select someone you can feel safe being open with in the sharing process, or look into a free support group like CAIR Self-Help Groups, or CAIRing Grace Groups.
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